Who to Talk To – And Who Not To Talk To Around a Potential Divorce

When facing the possibility of divorce, it's essential to choose wisely who you confide in. We've seen many people in your situation make common mistakes when discussing their marital troubles with others.

Common Mistakes to Avoid

• Not Telling Anyone: Out of shame or denial, some people isolate themselves, which only leads to stewing in negative emotions.

• Telling Everyone: Broadcasting your marital issues to everyone at work, church, or social groups can create conflict and make your spouse feel vilified.

• Talking to the Wrong People: Avoid confiding in your children or your spouse’s relatives and friends too soon, as this can create unnecessary tension and pressure.

So who should you talk to?

Confide in one or two very trusted friends or family members.

Here are some criteria for choosing the right confidants:

• Empathetic Listeners: Choose someone who will listen and empathize without taking sides against your spouse.

• Non-Judgmental: Select individuals who help you sort out your options rather than giving direct advice.

• Supportive Yet Realistic: Find someone who will not encourage you to accept divorce as inevitable but will support your decision-making process.

• Compassionate: Pick confidants who show compassion for both you and your spouse. - Pro-Marriage: Avoid marriage skeptics and choose those who hold hope for the potential of your marriage.

Our Advice

Open up and share your feelings, but do so with caution. Choose your confidants wisely to receive the care, support, and constructive challenge you need. Let them know you’re looking for a friend for both you and your marriage.